We plan, we make strategies, take precautions, and yet, we face failure in life. What goes wrong? There are psychological reasons for failure we need to understand. How could we avoid failure in life? Obviously, failure is something nobody is willing to face but the fact that failure in life is the best teacher is also true. But hey, don’t you take me wrong, it teaches you not to fail again. And if you do fail again, you need to take the extra precautions now.
Know what brings you a failure in life. And if you’re thinking about blaming luck, then let me tell you that this itself is the reason for your failure before anything else. Know the factors which lead to a failure in life, read on:
1. Stop postponing to avoid failure in life:
It’s said by Kabir that what you intend to do tomorrow, do it today and what you intend to do today do it now. And plainly speaking, if you possess an inverse version of the attitude, don’t read further, that’s enough of a reason for your failure in life. You need to seriously consider this critical situation of yours and plan some amendments to resolve the issue. Do it immediately.
I mean, literally! Why are you still here?
If you really want to rectify yourself, then start condemning your laziness, hit it hard. Take control of your desire to be laze and procrastinate. You have no way to avoid failure in life if you make peace with laziness.
2. Stop being intolerant to avoid failure in life:
I’m just speaking about not being patient. It’s one of the essential ingredients you require to avoid failure in life. Let not small things break you. Don’t let yourself get affected by the public judgment if you’re sure that you’re right. Have a mentor though, what I’m asking you to do is not to consider what people say, sort of gossip about you.
And more importantly, if you’re Intolerant towards any feedback and if you tend to take the feedback as criticism, then change the way you perceive them. Trust me, you need the feedback, we are often oblivious towards our own flaws. Human psychology is full of fallacies and cognitive biases where we overlook the rational reasons and logical conclusions.
Remember that the one who gives you feedback is your well-wisher and you reject it you lose one well-wisher.
3. You cannot avoid failure in life with frustration:
This is quite in relevance to intolerance. The more intolerant you are more vulnerable you become, and the weakness is very much exposed in the form of frustration. A man shouts when he has nothing to say. It’s the moment when you accept that you’re a loser and you lose control over yourself. To avoid failure in life, avoid getting yourself to that situation whatsoever.
If you (honestly) see that:
- The work has not been done, but you’re tired.
- You were busy, but not productive.
Then you’re not tired of work, you’re tired of being frustrated. There’s continuous stress which keeps you occupied and you get exhausted.
4. Don’t play a blame game:
Let me remind you to remain honest with yourself while you’re reading this, for it will be least effective if you aren’t. Failure comes in disguise of self-defense had you been only bothered about protecting yourself and concealing the wrongs committed by you. If your brain starts processing the involvements of other people and strives to relate it to the undesired outcome of a situation then you’re a victim of the blame game.
If you’re reluctant to accept the responsibility of the outcome of a situation which wasn’t the expected outcome then you’re asking for failure. And make a point that blaming others will do you no good, blaming yourself will increase the possibility of your amelioration.
5. Not having a sense of time will bring failure in life
If you know how precious time is, see how much you value it. Do you have a daily schedule? Do you know that you’ll never get the time to get the work done if you miss it now? I mean, of course, you know it but do you acknowledge it?
Answer these questions to yourself:
- Do you follow a routine? (work routine, not the laziness routine)
- Are you accustomed to postpone your work?
- What importance do you give to punctuality?
6. Fond of excuses
Do you have an imminent response towards anything to support your ground on it? May not always be rational but you’ll not be knowing it always because you are programmed to defend yourself no matter what. Are you fond of excuses? Knowingly or unknowingly.
Professor Covington’s research on students, published in the Handbook of Motivation at School, found that one way we protect our self-worth is by believing we are competent, and by convincing others of it, too.
Remember the last time you said oh, sorry, I sure did this wrong and will see to it that I shall not repeat it. If you want to avoid failure in your life, start saying it, an apology is much easier than defending your ego. And trust me, it will do you no harm, not will it diminish your ego, and I’m quite certain about that.
Nothing breeds success like failure
7. Setting wrong ideals and presenting wrong examples
We idolize people, there are lots of icons who inspire and attract people to idolize them. We have a different psychological mindset, we are different personalities as our determinants of personalities also differ. Hence we have different criteria of selecting an icon. If you admire someone you shouldn’t, then the outcomes will be quite obvious.
8. Get organized to avoid failure in life
Do you have your things in order? Do you get your things just when you need them? Clustering of things, belongings, time and personality itself is a huge reason for demotivation and hence the failure.
9. Be responsible
If you’re not preoccupied with the thought of completion of a task when it’s assigned to you or you are supposed to do then you should be. The thought of completion of the task on time will keep you motivated and get the work done. It will be your utmost priority as it should be to avoid failure in life. Every task no matter how small and simple it is is important.
10. Enjoy the work
You must have assigned works to people in your life, you might have even paid them for the same. Don’t you get preoccupied with the thought that you have to make every penny paid worth it? And you keep checking on the person you’ve assigned that job. Why? Why don’t you think that he will do the work because you’ve paid him?
Here are the two mentalities, one, who takes the work as a burden is the labor mentality. One not being very much bothered about the work, doing it for the sake of not completing the work. The other one is the one who wants the work to be done, no matter what. If you take your work as a burden, then you might be having the labor mentality and until you change it, you won’t enjoy working.
Look at it this way, don’t you desire to finish the work? Won’t it give you the pleasure of achievement when you see the mission accomplished, no matter how small? Work is the process of achieving that joy.
Hope this provides you a fastidious perspective of how to avoid failure in life. Get yourself motivated, make a daily schedule of yours and work on your personality development. You have a way to go, don’t layover where you are. It’s about time that you ameliorate your delinquencies in the past had you had any.
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