Barriers of communication you must overcome
Barriers of communication are what keeps you from being good in communication skills. And communication skill isn’t something you can compromise on, you shouldn’t. Know these barriers of communication to overcome what keeps you from being a master of communication.
There’s nothing we can do for someone or anyone, nor anyone can do for us unless we communicate. What is communication? It is the skill or method of conveying a message by the sender and understanding that message by the receptor. You want any work done, you communicate that desire, method, plan the consequences and everyone you want to be involved. It’s then that things, ideas, outcomes, progress, and results come into existence. Without communication all this is nothing. You can’t even hush a baby, yeah, even that’s communication. But thank God that we have it, and here we are communicating.
Being called a skill, communication skill, it’s not everyone’s cup of tea to master this skill. Many suffer even using communication skills efficiently. And if the message gets miscommunicated, it might well end up bad, or even worse at times. A lifetime struggle if you don’t master this art, to a manageable extent. And a lifetime reward if you’re a master of art in communication skills. You’re admired, you’re loved, you’re respected and listened to. If you know when to say, how to say, what to say, where to say and whom to say it to, you got it right.
What makes some of us not so good at communication?
What makes you less successful? Your failures. And what are failures? Obstacles to success. That’s what it is, and having good communication skills is a success. And what stops you from having it are obstacles, the barriers of communication. These are the speed breakers on the road to successful communication. You speak and nobody takes you serious. Someone else comes and makes his point clear, though the same one which you tried. Can you identify the barriers to communication you’re not able to overcome? You don’t want this to happen, do you? Nor do I. Let’s discuss the common barriers to communication.
Linguistic barriers of communication
Speaking of communication, the first picture that pops in our head is a person talking with elegance. At least that’s what I got when I thought of it. And for anyone to talk, he needs a language. I mean we need a language to communicate even with computers, right? But like we can’t use the language we use to speak to have an intelligible communication with a computer. Because it will be incomprehensible and unintelligible. Hence we have to be very selective in using the language to communicate considering whom are we addressing.
So, if you happen to be in a need to communicate with someone with whom you don’t share a common language, you will find it extremely difficult to communicate. And you get forced down to sign language which can never be a replacement to speech. Your point of view cannot be clear as your facial expression and body language may show emotions but not the precise concept which you want to convey. Translators are used to overcoming this language barrier.
Inappropriate vocabulary, a barrier to communication
You might have seen people in an intensely emotional situation trying to make a point. But struggling to convey the message and its intensity may be running short on adjectives and adverbs or maybe more than that. Their vocabulary doesn’t support their emotional intensity and their body language, they are totally out of synchronization. It’s like you are in the middle of a fight and you in your run short of bullets.
You need a resource of high-quality vocabulary in your possession to equip yourself and be capable to put forth your point of view. The more the vocabulary you master, the stronger you can convey the message. Using this vocabulary is, of course, a skill to be practiced to sharpen your communication skills.
Lack of experience
Practice makes a man perfect, or less erroneous at least. I won’t be wrong if I consider communication skills as a root of many other skills, like interpersonal relationship skills and negotiation skill to name a few. Unless your interaction is confined to machines, you are in a requirement of communication skills in every field and every aspect of your life. No matter what your proficiency is, and no matter what field you work in, this particular mastery can take you to newer heights.
How can I get better with experience one might ask? Let’s put it this way, you take time to understand the body language, the subtle facial expressions, and the nonverbal cues. Paying close attention and learning is vital in improving communication because communication comes in clusters, every form of communication is important. Verbal communication and the nonverbal, right from the tone of your voice, whether it’s angry or a friendly tone, it takes keen observation and listening skills to learn. A small gesture, a small cue could change the decision, so pay attention to every detail the next time you’re communicating.
Though it’s not a lack of practice here, the natural condition like speech disorder is a barrier of communication. It creates more pauses, unnecessary stops and distracts the rhythm making it difficult for the listener to comprehend or maintain the focus level. Just as difficult it is for the conveyor to deliver the message.
Emotional obstacles of communication
Emotional immaturity is in my view also a barrier of communication or effective communication at least. How much sense does an angry man make when he shouts in rage? Unless you can overcome the tendency of any emotion to dominate your intelligence, you cannot maintain the worth of your words every time. Emotions often overtaking logic, and the brain occupied by an emotional wave is seldom reliable. These emotional barriers restrict effective communication as would an open mind do.
We tend to give commitments under the influence of happiness which we practically don’t support when normal. As the effect of ecstasy fades, you might regret what you’ve said when happy.
Our brain functions the best in peace, easier to pay attention, easier to speak the mind out, make a pint of view and we’re in control of what we say. Stress gets our brain messed up, we fail to choose the right decision and we are more prone to mistakes. You don’t ask opinions to stressed-out people, they require help.
The most vulnerable you are is when you’re angry. We often find ourselves in a regrettable situation had we let our mouth to spill what it feels like in anger. We’re less precautious, the energy pumping through us fades away the consequences of what we are doing or planning to do in the heat of the moment. And when things settle down, we don’t have that energy anymore to deal with the consequences, nor the courage to deal with it. It sometimes even turns out to be immoral which we realize by the time we lose the opportunity to mend things.
Approach someone whom you hate and you know that you find it difficult to fake the smile and you can’t be nice genuinely. Sometimes the fake is too apparent because when you’re face to face, it’s difficult to act and behave well. And communication without being genuine loses its charm. Hence these emotions are common barriers to effective communication.
Physical barriers to communication
Anything that restricts your message from being delivered is a barrier. And to begin with, the simplest and easiest ones which can be dealt with ease often are the physical barriers. The physical situation, condition or the surrounding that obstruct communication or sometimes restricts it are the physical barriers to communication. Few are named below.
1. Defected equipment
Don’t just think of an earpiece, our ear itself is a piece of equipment, an organ more precisely though. Microphones, speakers and hearing aids, whatever thing that plays a role in making the communication happen needs to word perfectly for perfect communication. The defect in any such equipment defects the message and creating a barrier in communication.
Very obvious but worth mentioning the barrier to communication is the distance. Thanks to the electronic inventions and devices we can now summon those we want to speak with on our palms or screens, but direct communication is limited to an extent where our voice can reach. That too is if we’re in vocal communication, else the distance still is a barrier of communication if it’s visual communication. Even in electronic or the satellite communication, we’re yet to reach out to aliens, if they exist of course.
3. Closed doors
This again is a very obvious obstacle to communicate with almost the same reasoning and exceptions as the above. A physical obstacle and no obstacle or being face to face does make a huge difference. To emphasize it, let me make you imagine a glass barrier in between someone you are talking with face to face. Think of it and tell me how would that make you feel? You are close in proximity but the barrier still leaves an impact and would certainly act as a barrier between effective communication.
And despite having no barriers between you and being close sitting face to face, what could hurdle your communication is the noise. The unwanted voices from around the proximity which is forcing you to make out the message being said out of all those noises. It’s quite an irritation. I’ve heard there are some noise cancellation techniques like in cell phones even while we sit live with someone. I can’t wait to lay my hands on one, it would be such a relief. There’s nothing like a peaceful silent ambiance. We know why such places are preferred for important conversations.
To be concerned about others’ views about you.
What sometimes holds us back from speaking our hearts out is the thought and fear that what others might think of us if I say so? Some are so obsessed with this that they are less concerned about their problems than this illusion of threat. And this very thought holds them from being an effective communicator.
1. Fear of mistakes
To add to this could be the fear of mistakes, which holds down an attempt to communicate. If you think why take a risk of being wrong? Then you stop yourself from that chance of communicating, which sometimes might be of utmost importance.
2. Fear of being judged
I can say almost the same thing about this as what said for the fear of mistakes and the previous reason.
3. Too impressed by others
Hey, I can never be as cool as he/she is. Should I talk? How could I? I’m not cool, I shouldn’t talk, I should just listen to these cool guys. This also is a reason behind the fear we spoke about. The inferiority complex some people live in is a huge barrier to communication. Don’t compare yourself to everyone around, unless it positively motivates you.
Hence to master communication, you need a skill level to overcome these common barriers of communication. Of which, physical barriers are the easiest ones to get rid of, and the emotional barriers seem to be needing practice. You work for it, trust me, nothing can stop you from achieving it. Communication skills are a huge factor in making your personality.