How to stay positive
All the people in the world have one question in common i.e., how to stay positive because the world is full of negative things, and how you handle them shows who you really are.
I think with all the negativity in the world, it’s essential to stay positive. We should think of ourselves as a “glass half full” type of person, and I think that’s an important way to be. Staying positive makes you and the people around you feel confident, and your positivity rubs off on them. Remaining positive through the ups and downs of life keeps you a happier person.
Being cynical about the bad things in your life or the bad things around you will forever put a damper on your life. To stay happy and positive in a low period, you must think and remind yourself that this negativity is not how you want to go about life.
Life is too short to let bad, sad, frustrating, or hurtful things get you down when there’s always going to be something to help you get through it.
Staying positive is so important for your mental and physical health. When you let negative thoughts remain in your mind, they overwhelm both your brain and your body. They cause you to stress; they cause you to be unable to sleep or move, and you are consumed by these negative thoughts.
The best thing to do is to look at any situation from a positive angle. If it’s too hard, find someone who will help you find a positive in a situation.
Negativity can take over your life, but you cannot let it happen. Stay positive through it all, and you will become a better and happier person who can help anyone who thinks negatively, too.
Here are some ways in which we can stay positive.
1.How to stay positive by not thinking about the past
Thinking about the past is one kind of mistake. Imagine how much time we spent thinking about past events and life. There are very few times we think about the sweetness of the past. Most of these thoughts are about past mistakes or decisions.
It is all right to learn from the past, but it’s a waste of time to think about the sad and bad memories of the past again and again. It may be hard to believe that 80% of your thoughts are about the past. So if we avoid past thinking, then we can stay positive.
2. Don’t take it personally
A lot of our frustration comes from what other people do or say. “OMG! I can’t believe he said that! How does he dare?!” Well, maybe it’s time to lighten up a bit. We overanalyze every single thing people say and do.
Sometimes, people just do dumb things. Not everything people do is personal. If you want to live a good life, you can’t take everything personally. Understand that there are more important things to life like your health, family, and career, which make you stay positive.
3.Train Your mind
Are you a person who continuously beats yourself up mentally? Do you always question your actions? Believe me; I’ve been there. Retrain your brain to stop doing that to yourself. The more you talk negatively to yourself, the more that negativity will become a part of you. Instead, practice the power of positive thinking.
Any time a negative thought comes into your mind, replace it with a positive one. At some point, this will become more natural as your brain automatically turns a negative into a positive.
4.Quit being a victim
It is easier to assume the role of a victim during tough times than to take responsibility for yourself. But doing so will only prolong your suffering and put off people who may be able to help you out.
Letting go of the victim label also frees you from resentment and bitterness, which will only jam up the creative energies you need to get out of the mess.
5.Focus on solutions, not on problems
When things are tough, we tend to focus on the problems. Focusing on issues makes them grow, and if we don’t do anything about them, we become unhappy, frustrated, and pessimistic. If we maintain a positive attitude, believe that there is a solution, and keep looking for it, we will ultimately find it.
”if you are positive, you will win something even when you lose ”
Apart from the above things we can follow these also to stay positive
6 . Only use positive words while talking
If you’re always telling yourself, “I can’t,” you may convince yourself that it is the truth. Replace these negative words with positive words instead. Always tell yourself you will do your best or that you will try your hardest instead.
7. direct your thoughts
This technique, used by psychotherapists, can help you to control your thoughts when you start to feel down or anxious. Create a happy thought, a positive image, or give yourself positive feedback to keep bad feelings in check.
”There is a little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is the attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.”
8. Believe you will succeed
There is nothing like believing in yourself to create a successful reality. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt and think that you will succeed in fulfilling your goals.
9. Analyse what went wrong
Thinking positively doesn’t mean denying that there is anything wrong. Instead, give yourself some time to think about the things that led up to your current situation so you can avoid future mistakes and look toward a more positive tomorrow.
10. Look for opportunities
In every failure, there’s an opportunity to improve. Spend time thinking of ways you can turn your setbacks at work into ways you can get ahead in the future.
11. Stop making excuses
There are always a million excuses for any person not to do something even if that something can make them feel happier. Stop putting up obstacles to your happiness and ditch those lame excuses when you hear yourself making them.
12. Associate yourself with those who think positively
Positivity is contagious, so find friends and family members who look on the bright side to surround yourself with.
13. Come up with ideas of how to turn negative thoughts into positive ones
Whenever you find yourself thinking you should have done this or that differently, try changing your thinking around. Instead of doing that, give yourself credit for what you did. Do remember that you are not perfect or that you can do better next time.
14. Visualize a successful outcome
Sometimes it can be very helpful to picture yourself finishing a project successfully or getting the promotion you wished. This can encourage you and make you feel a lot better about the situation.
15. Think of ways to turn visualisation into action
The next natural step of this is to think of just how you’re going to get to where you see yourself. Just picturing it isn’t going to make it happen, so create a plan to take it one step at a time until you’ve made it.
16. Take control of your decisions
You’re the boss of what is going on in your life, even when you feel like you don’t have a choice. Take back control of your decisions and choose to be happier and more positive.
Sometimes all it takes to feel good is to put a smile on your face. It then makes you stay positive.
Indeed, staying positive is a sign of a positive personality. Well written
I do agree with most of what you have said; keeping a positive perspective and state of mine is helpful to maintaining equilibrium and happiness overall in one’s life.
However, I respectfully disagree with your statement that we should all look at the glass being half full.
My perspective is this:
The glass is neither half full, nor half empty. I see the glass as containing precisely the right amount.
#2 is grammatically incorrect. “Personally” is correct, not “personal.”
The rest of your advice is excellent (of course there is nothing wrong with seeing the glass as half full for most people), but unfortunately, the real world doesn’t always work that way, dear heart!
Many people have brains with chemical imbalances and/or miswiring, and this makes it simply if not difficult, impossible, to do without medical assistance, chemical intervention, therapy and/or neurofeedback.
In the ideal world, all one would have to do is think positively; not in the real world, bubala.
I do agree with you to a degree Belle, the glass certainly contains the right amount of water. I’ve often come across people with adverse generalizations who entirely overlook the fact that they at least have something (half glass of water) if not the desired amount of resource (glass full).
Like you said what they have might just be sufficient, should they believe so
And most of the people need an ideal situation to pursue which is mostly if not always practically unachievable. Closer you get, better you’ve done.
This might be subjective but thought of presenting my point of view.
All of us have a unique personal perspective of things. The experiences we have in our lives and situations we’ve been through makes us think in a certain way.
Generally “glass half full” approach is a sign of optimism and it can have a positive impact on our lives.
It all depends upon the way we see.
I appreciate your perspective, Bella.