How to control your anger


Anger is not a condition, it’s a symptom that your life is unbalanced. If you get insufficient sleep, go without breakfast, spend every day including weekends working, rarely exercise, and have no time for yourself, you’ll be prone to extreme irritation and’s very important to know how to control your anger.

A person experiencing anger will often experience physical conditions, such as increased heart rate, elevated blood pressure, and increased levels of adrenaline and nor adrenaline. Anger can have many physical and mental consequences.

According to the studies of the University of Michigan people who get angry often their IQ levels tend to decrease day by day. On the other hand people who get less angry, their Power of the brain increases day by day. That is the reason why you should know how to control your anger.

These are a few tips with which we can control our anger.

1. Affirmations or Counting

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Mental or verbal affirmations or counting can help the rational mind regain control over angry feelings. Saying a word or phrase s’relax’ or ‘I am calm’ can help soothe feelings of anger. Repeat until control is re-established. Count the numbers from 1 to 10 or more depending upon the situation.carry on until you gain control over your anger.

2. How to control your anger by deep breathing 

Use deep breathing to invoke a sense of peace and calm and to counteract rising tension. Concentrate on the breath going in and out of the lungs to take the focus off the source of the anger. It is important to take deep breaths rather than breathing shallowly from the chest, as that technique is not as effective.

3. Take a time out

Diffuse your temper by slowing down. Before you react take a moment or two. if necessary step away from the person or situation until your anger is reduced.Think before you speak. before you say something which you soon regret hold that thought for a while and then speak.

4.Exerciserun off the anger


Physical activity or exercise can help someone feel calmer. Take a brisk walk around the block or non-strenuous yoga-like exercises.the endorphins released during exercise will relax the muscles and assist in feeling relaxed and calm.

5. Avoid people, places, and situations that bring out your worst

Identify stressful events that affect you. take control of your environment.  avoid unnecessary aggravation. Look at your regular routine and try to identify activities, times of day, people, places, or situations that trigger irritable or angry feelings. Consider ways to avoid these triggers or view the situation differently so it doesn’t make your blood boil.

6.Massaging and Stretching

If full-fledged exercise is not possible, stretching or massaging muscles can have a similar beneficial effect of relieving feelings of anger.  Gently massage the neck, scalp, shoulders or temples. In addition, move the head slowly from side to side or front to back to stretch the neck muscles. Stretch arms above the head, arching the back or bend sideways at the waist.

7. Don’t hold a grudge

Forgive people. don’t let anger and other negative feelings crowd out the positive ones. Avoid being swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. If you can forgive someone who angered you both will learn a lot from that situation. It’s unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times. So stop overthinking about the problem and Forgive people. 

8.Act the opposite

One of the quickest ways to change a painful feeling is to act the opposite. Smile instead of frown. Speak softly rather than loudly. Relax instead of tightening. Disengage rather than attack. Empathize rather than judge

9. Remember the good timesgood times together

Whenever you get angry at other people just remember the good things about that person, the good times you had together, the fun you had together. Whenever you remember the good things it reduces our anger and creates a positive state of mind rather than negative thoughts.

10.Train your mind to be patient 

People who don’t have patience get frustrated very easily. then that frustration will obviously result in anger. We have to train our mind to be patient because we have to understand that not everything can be done at once. So go step by step, wait for it to complete. By this, you can learn how to control your anger.

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  • Nice article ! Thanks for sharing.

    • Thank you Soulful

  • Thanks it was worth ready and could bring lot of change in thought process of the person and he will not victim of the anger and he will learn how to tame the anger in very simple way .

    • Thank you. Yes for sure

  • ANGER … even today i am yet to control and be calm..just couple of hours ago i expressed my anger towards my wife, quite frustrated and felt later i could have avoided it by being silent.. than outburst, which was unwarranted… thanks to your site for showing means of control of anger which can leave a bad taste in life and living harmoneously.

    thanks again om shanti . shanti .. shanti.

    • Happy to hear that you have realised it.😊
      Exactly! we can avoid so many things by being silent in some cases.

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