Research tells us that the human brain can think of five to nine things at the same time, so it can be a bit challenging to isolate and identify the confidence-building thoughts from those that do you no good. Realising that you have confidence within you, even if it has been hiding for a while, is the first step in reinforcing it. Deciding that you want to retain and focus on your self-confidence is the next one.
For many who live with doubt, or are in challenging situations, believing that they are even capable of feeling confident can be difficult. I recommend that, if you are feeling this way, you find some quiet reflection time to help you see that somewhere inside you lies a confident thought or two. And that is all you need to get to the next level. To get to this point, it can help to remember a time when you felt good about yourself and your life. Those are confident memories, and we all know that if you’ve done it before, you can do it again.
Reflecting on past successes and allowing yourself to feel the positive emotions connected with them will help you create a more exceptional ability to tap into your confidence because you aren’t just wishing and hoping; you are seeing that you have been a more self-confident person. Those little pieces of success, pride and assurance are like seeds: If you plant them, give them a little sunlight and water or in this case sometimes and thought, you will begin to feel better about yourself and what you are doing.
Initially, most people are a little reluctant, partially because it’s unfamiliar territory, which always produces a touch of anxiety. Pushing through your discomfort and working on identifying where your confidence lies is a task that, when completed, you will be thankful you took on. Once you get in touch with the reality that you can believe in yourself, your life will get a little easier and most likely a lot more fun.
Confidence isn’t about taking over the world. It is about enjoying your world as much as possible. It doesn’t take much, and you do have it inside your heart and soul, so take a little time and look for it. I think you will be more than pleased with yourself with what you find.
These are few tips with which we can increase our confidence.
1. How to increase the confidence by staying away from a negative environment
A negative environment where people are negative has an impact on our confidence. This isn’t about having the occasional bad day or moment. It’s about living and working in an environment that brings or puts you down. When someone is always telling you that you’re not good enough, eventually, if you stay around a while, you will start to believe it.so always surround yourself with positive people and stay in a positive environment.
2. Have trust in the process
Whenever we face unexpected things while we are doing something, we usually get a little anxious; sometimes we freak out. Again, this is pretty human stuff, but the problem is that whenever most people get derailed, their confidence is shaken, and they can change direction or just get lost and have difficulty getting back on track.
Instead of putting your project aside to deal with the problem that’s trying to get your attention, take the time to do what you were going to do in the first place. By not allowing yourself to be thrown off course, you are keeping control. If you can sit down and complete your goal, despite your current circumstances, you will build your self-confidence and won’t lose any ground.
3. Inner peace and happiness
Happiness is an inner state of peace and well-being regardless of circumstances. When we experience that kind of inner happiness, we also have high self-esteem. We believe in ourselves and know that we are worthy regardless of our circumstances, that is real confidence. Developing the inner state of well-being will create confidence in all areas of your life.
If you don’t develop inner well-being, you may feel confident in one specific area of your life, but uncomfortable in many other regions. That is “conditional confidence,” and it will never bring you fulfilment. The process of developing greater confidence like building a muscle—it takes regular training, making a habit of doing the things that help you feel inner peace and well-being that leads you to increase your confidence.
Imagination plays a vital role in building our confidence. By using this technique, some salesperson has increased its sales by up to 400%. They used to imagine what kind of questions people will ask, and then they use to prepare their answers accordingly. Since they are ready for all the questions, they feel confident.
Psychologists say that if we imagine that we are losing it is almost impossible that we will win. In the same way, if we believe that we can do it, then it will contribute a lot to our success. If we take time daily and accurately use this technique, then we can increase our confidence.
5. Be patient with yourself
If you don’t reach your goals the first time you try, don’t see it as a failure. Remember that you have learned something and will do better next time. The way to develop self-confidence is to know that, no matter what happens, you will grow from the experience. Self-confidence doesn’t come from sitting on your hands and waiting for something to happen.
It is about throwing everything you have against the wall and waiting patiently for something to stick. Then you have to take your time to refine your projects. For many, that is the hardest part of the process. If we overcome that, then we can be successful. Patience may be a virtue, but it is also a necessity in achieving and living a self-confident life.
6.Embrace your fears
Logic would dictate that overcoming something that frightens you makes you stronger and more self-confident by embracing your fears. You are creating a much more efficient and practical way of dealing with them.
You don’t have to climb Mount Everest or jump out of a perfectly good aeroplane to move through your anxieties; often just dealing appropriately with the stress and worry of daily life can increase your self-confidence. Having the confidence to wrap your head around your fears and look at how they help or hurt you is a great exercise to help you not only overcome them but also use them to accomplish your goals.
7. Be prepared
You can’t feel confident unless you know what you need to know. Get educated, learn, research and never stop reading. Preparing whether it is for a presentation or an exam will help you feel safe and allow you to show off your best performance.
Even though you can’t always be ready for everything, life throws at you. But, getting into the habit of preparing, you create a backlog of emotional building blocks you’ll get to use later. Preparation is your friend and not nearly as painful as you think it is. It is also a necessity when it comes to gaining greater self-confidence.
8. Be courageous
Courage is not the absence of fear; it is about moving through the unsure moments to reach your goals, despite any anxieties. Facing challenges with the understanding that you have the emotional mettle to withstand the difficulties around the corner is a building block of confidence. When you know you’re doing the right thing, it makes you feel empowered. And that kind of confidence can’t help but give you the courage you need to face adversity. Whether it’s a physical illness, a work challenge, or any other challenge if you trust that you are meant to be where you are, or intended to survive whatever is threatening you, your ability to win is greatly enhanced.
9.Monitor your thinking
Of the gazillion thoughts, we have a day; research has determined that 80 per cent are negative. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist or even a “shrink” to realize that negative thoughts will produce downer days. The challenge for those of us who want to keep our thinking as positive as possible is to stop those massive quantities of bad vibes from entering our brains. Meditation, visualization, and self-hypnosis are other tools that can assist you in this very doable task. Monitoring your thinking so that you can change from a negative thinker to a positive one, is a great tool to help you build your self-confidence.
10.Celebrate small victories
Small victories, as I like to call them, can be anything from finding a great parking space or buying a lottery ticket and winning a small amount. The trick of turning these micro-successes into confidence is that you have to experience the emotions associated with success. By allowing yourself to feel successful, you are training your brain cells and giving them the most addictive force in nature: intermittent positive reinforcement.
If you celebrate successes throughout the day, no matter how small, you can’t help but increase your desire to want more. Building your confidence from your success is the purest form of self-esteem.